Emotionally Focused Therapy is an Attachment Therapy, a form of treatment focusing on the human being’s need for attachment beginning with and enduring long after childhood. When babies are born, they depend on their mother and then the primary caregiver for life. Attachment hormones keep parents focus on keeping the young alive. As we grow and develop, young children venture out and tend to look towards parents to identify if they are OK. Most psychology focuses on teens’ need to be independent and identify with others in order to grow up.
In teen relationships and eventually adult relationships, we are looking towards the other partner to validate and accept us the way we are. Truly we depend on that feeling of being attuned to and connected in order to feel safe in our relationship. Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most up to date psychology theories pointing to the immense need of human beings to be attached, safe and close with another. This early attachment from birth plays a role in how secure or insecure we are in partnership. EFT focuses on this important bond between youngsters and their caregivers and eventually significant love relationships. The connection between therapist and client can also mirror a safe and secure bond that can and will be replicated in future relationships.
Yolanda Yturralde, LMFT, practices psychotherapy from an Attachment Psychology Therapy approach. She finds that individuals and couples benefit from this Attachment-based Therapy. When individuals present with a relationship issue, it is often helpful to look at early patterns of attachment in order to attune to the deep seated needs which developed over a lifetime.
Mindfulness Based Cognitive Behavioral (MB-CBT)
CBT is a treatment form offering clients a new way of thinking about old problems. It pairs new behaviors with new thinking patterns. Yolanda often uses Clinical Hypnosis and EMDR in order to help re-train stuck thinking /behavioral patterns.Talk therapy is what we think of when we think of psychotherapy, however it is a very pointed conversation about thought processes and behaviors which are un/wanted. Focusing on what you prefer to do and say to yourself is the primary goal of CBT in my psychotherapy counseling practice. Using Mindfulness exercises, clients are relaxed and in tune with their own experiences which gives velocity to changing behaviors and thinking patterns.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a CBT which utilizes bilateral stimulation (I have clients tap their opposite shoulders or knees by themselves) in order to reprocess disturbing events. Yolanda uses this EMDR therapy for both little t and big T traumas. Often it is helpful after single incident trauma as well as multiple episode Trauma. Relationship issues that are painful often are based in old hurts that once processed can be relieved. EMDR is a revolutionary treatment which can help people put behind them disturbing thoughts or behaviors. In their place we “install” a safe place and a new belief about oneself. EMDR is helpful when clients are upset about a difficult life experience or car accident as well as something more significant such as PTSD. Sexual assaults, abuse or childhood pain can be healed with EMDR. Yolanda is trained in Level II EMDR which allows for more severe wounds to be treated in the privacy of her private practice.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
EFT is becoming a household word as Couples discover ways of being closer by addressing their attachment styles and how to begin to reach for each other in ways that are received. Developed by Dr. Susan Johnson, this research-based therapy helps couples regain closeness and solve their conflicts together. See Blog article for more information.
Trained in human sexual behavior, Yolanda offers a safe place to discuss sexual problems. Sex Therapy can be learning ways to aid painful sex, heal sexual abuse, or increase pleasure in loving encounters. Often sexual desire has waned. Many couples have a discrepancy in their needs for sexual contact. Talking about sex is a normal part of relationship psychotherapy and couples can gain much intimacy by having a safe place in which to do so. Individuals can gain healthy practices by having sex therapy alone before sharing pleasures with a partner. In EFT, couples build a solid base first and heal the raw spots left behind by past hurts before they venture into Sex Therapy.
Clinical Hypnosis is a relaxation exercise led by Yolanda in counseling sessions. With your permission, a guided trance encourages positive self talk and mental rehearsal. Sports Psychology uses clinical hypnosis for athletes to visualize their game in advance. Studies show that people who spend the time to relax and have vision for their goals are more likely to achieve them. This is also true for smaller goals such as sleeping deeply and awakening rested, letting go of negative habits such as smoking, using substances, leaving toxic relationships and healing past abuse. I believe that all hypnosis is Self-hypnosis and once I teach you how to do this, you can use hypnosis on your own. I record your session for you on your phone and this allows you to listen to the mp3 on your own time. Clients report feeling extremely positive about this therapeutic approach and I love doing it for you. Come in for a session and experience it yourself!